My Life Is A Party

Catégorie : Bear

  • Pride in Montréal was something Else (2023)

    Pride in Montréal was something Else (2023)

    Montréal Summer 2023, the world is changing, the world is changing. Montréal’s Pride’s party vibe is returning to what it was before the 80’s : a non-stop party full of Americans!

    Bears, Americans & Party

    So, this year, a first, I had friends from New York coming. We went shopping to the Bear Buffet : a party from the Group called Bear-It in collab with Armada Montréal: a party full of bears where geeks become complete sl*ts for a night.

    Boy, those topless bears were sweaty and ready. Imagine a nerdy guy kissing one, and then another one, meanwhile getting his belly rubbed by his daddy. This is not reality!

    Hunter mode activated

    Big guys don’t really how much they are chased….until they become slim.

    Indeed, in this world, when you are slim and fit, you are suppose to do the work! Nevertheless, my hunter mode is easily activated.

    What is Hunter Mode? It is in the eye. You walk to the buffet and fix on your food until it comes to you. Usually, the food first acts like they don’t care. But then you let out a slight hand wave by licking your lower lip, and then the food says, « Come, eat me, » with their smile.

    Américan Montréal

    We use to be poor, to live in the shadows of what Canadians thought of us. It has clearly changed since Americans discovered Montréal’s party scene.

    And they were ready to party as much as we were ready to welcome them.

    I wished they were more « cultured » though on Québec. Québécois are rooted to Montréal and Americans are so easy-come-easy-go makes it a vision with no future…while they could be such a bright future for Québec-Usa. We have the culture and they have the money.

    Kissing my first American Flirt 15 years later.

    Rewind to when as a young 21 years old, I went to New York with a dream of kissing a fat American bearded man… a dream came true, an American dream. Flashback at RockBar NYC, and there he was: your typical American guy from Connecticut sitting and agreeing to kiss my lips after a lot of me shyly going to him for a talk. 15 years later, I am on St-Catherine Street on Sunday (when all the cool people in Montréal go out) to see where it is at. I am near the store PRIAPPE in the Village right by the Eagle, as we are about to head to Dj Bugo Darling Olympic Stadium Dance Dj Set smoking a big joint.

    So I lurk on the app « Growlr » and there is a face I feel I know. Looks who is there : the first American bear I kissed in NYC!

    After a moment, I ask him about it. We kind of recognize each other. He then tells me he is sitting in the bar right beside where I am. Public transportation in Montréal is horrible because of overpaid bad workers …not working. So I ditched my friends waiting in line and went to meet him.

    I love American Bears

    I go in the overcrowded bar. There he is : big american chunky guy and with a black beard. There is one stool left at the bar, and it is next to him with a full beer in front of it.

    I love Americans 🐻

    We kiss

  • Daddy & Son Never Been So Hot – ManonMan Concert Review (2023)

    Daddy & Son Never Been So Hot – ManonMan Concert Review (2023)

    I saw Man On Man live in Montréal, the musical tale of a Daddy & a Son. A first for me : a gay rock show with other stuff than drags or non-binary people. Finally it happened to me! It did not feel queer more than it felt « brosy » and normal. To be honest, I find this vibe very hot. At some point, I felt they were both playing with their…. guitars….Sidenote, Daddy is the former drummer of Faith No More and the son is his boyfriend.

    The Creepiness of Web 3.0

    This is a band that was recommended to me by the algorithm. I guess it knows I’m gay and I would be attracted to them… And it worked…It is very weird to be bombarded by pictures of someone and then meeting them in real life to realize they have no idea who you are.

    A Great Album : Provincetown

    I enjoyed listening to the album. It is very intimate, soft and passionate. I think it was recorded at their home in Provincetown. I saw their stories and I can easily imagine they sang the songs to each other on their bed. The way sometimes the chorus sound like lullabies for children gives me that impression. It has a childish « teenager in love » vibe which is kind of cool and sweet.

    Favorite line : « I don’t get the references, but I get the message »

    Making music with Daddy has a nostalgic vibe

    Music wise, it was the setting of The Kills guit//synth + drum machine. I call it cold rock because of the mix of drums machines, guitares, synchronised synth pads and melodies. It has a square mechanical vibe that resembles the steady pace of electronic music unlike typical chaotic rock. It did have a feeling of nostalgia.

    In fact, their whole album (like I bought a cd and they where like « a what? » 😉 ) has this feeling of the past : the best years of the 00s indie rock. Its slow progressions, eery voices and a perfectly balanced mix of rock and synth makes it a perfect portrait. Like listening to « daddy’s polished new music », it does, nevertheless, feel like trying to recapture the the best of the past. Bring me back to the glory daze.

    Man On Man is Wholesome Duo.

    They started their show with a kiss and I was already smiling in my heart. I must say, that aspect of their brand is really cool and novel. Gay men didn’t really kiss or showed affection like that in Montréal back in the 00s. On stage like on their album « Provincetown », it is clear that they love each other pretty much and I enjoyed wittnessing it.

    Stage Presence :Slinging their guitars like big dicks

    Guitarists are hot. Ask any groupie. They are way hotter than djs even though djs are hot too. I couldn’t help myself but to be slightly aroused by the guitar gymnastics of the duos « man on man ». I had a video on my stories of them almost rubbing their two guitars together. I mean guitar playing steams from the penis and these two were definitly vibing together. The couple effect of Man on Man was in full action.

    In conclusion

    If Instagram does not show your crush a picture of you then don’t try 😉 meaning I definitly didn’t make an impression on them. Though I am glad to have seen a rock gay duo à la Daddy & Son. I liked how they stayed relatively prude compare to your average « queer performance » : the fact that they stay pretty clean about their performance is even hotter. It is definitly palpable that they love each other and sometimes less is more.

    MAN ON MAN are currently on tour

    Last note crowd incident

    Let me put my Québécois hat and tell you about a unsound incident in the crowd. After a joke of the singer about his inability to communicate swiftly in french, a guy in the audience softly shouted « Fuck French » just loud enough so people around we could hear it but not the band. This is a great example of « your typical Canadian micro-agression against Québecois » for no reason. I didn’t say anything but it was hurtful….especially since nobody said anything. The double-standard is weird for such a « queer militant » space. I say this to raise awareness about those kind of « unsound » incident in Montreal when you are Québécois : they happen all the time. And to break the « narcissistic » canadian nice guy image, they only do that to us. It is like if every culture has the right to live but ours. They would never had said that about any other culture. End of the drama.

  • Bar exposé : (Daddy’s) Alley in Boston (2023)

    Bar exposé : (Daddy’s) Alley in Boston (2023)

     

    Welcome to the Alley Bar

    From the outside, it looks like a complete revival of the « Cruisin » era from the 70s. On a Montréal scale, this looks like the bar where you score your local hard drug.I wonder what I will inside The Alley bar in Boston. Great reminder of how things changed. I guess back then, you had to go discreetly to your local gay bars in fear of catching too much attention.

    An age for old men

    I’m in daddy’s bar, let’s just say the least during « Happy Hours ». There is food, no dancing, bright lights, sports …and daddies.

     

    I am an Alien

    My colored, sparkling, New York- looking « I come from Montréal » ass is very détonnant with the rest of the, let’s just say, more conservative-looking crowd wearing button-down shirts, t-shirts, big bellies, beards and daddies. This is « Under Armour’s kingdom. »

    Vibes are good

    Booze is cheap. It is now 8h40 pm, let’s see how daddy likes his boy 😂

    First Impression : They know I am an Alien

     

    I feel people are looking at me yet, nobody is talking.

    Chaser on the hunt

    So I went and talked to the first guy I saw outside. A cute cub with a beard. He was cute but we fell short of talking. It is hard to just have conversation with a complete stranger you are taking on a date.Maybe New York is getting to me because I felt like kissing but I felt it would be hors norme.Music-wise : Very Rupaul, “I love DragPop. » At least they are not playing Britney Spears.

    Oh, I was wrong.

    (Work Bitch – Britney Spears – playing at the moment)

    You need to talk to daddy so he talks to his son

    …….and then he won’t want you to go

    …….but he won’t tell it until you start to leave.

    Daddies are weird hahaha…..

    …..but cute, and they have a big heart.

    Go up the staircase to enjoy yourself

    And I’m definitely not alone in enjoying daddy, from the amount of young/old flirting I’m seeing around me : it’s a very unique vibe.

    Kissing to say hi

    Americans have a funny way to communicate. Here I say hi and then I kiss. « Words are meaningless, » if I may quote Depeche Mode. You communicate with the eyes. If your eyes cross the other guy’s eyes and you both hold it, then you can kiss him – at least that is what they seem to want to do.

    Strangely, I’d rather talk sometimes, it gives more amplification to the kiss. But I must admit it is also quite thrilling. 

    Music :  Good Times (Chic) 90s modern latino remix

    Time to go

    4 kisses